Dealing with the Causes, Rather than Effects, of Domestic Violence

In regards to domestic violence, and the supposedly evil men who perpetrate it:

Too many people attack the branches of evil, aka the effects, and do not analyze issues thoroughly enough to go to the roots, which are the actual causes.

“There are a thousand hacking at the branches of evil to one who is striking at the root.” ~Henry David Thoreau

Emotionally and intellectually stunted thinking is the issue underlying domestic violence, and violent outbursts are merely a symptom. Here’s the actual problem; people are so used to arguing to win, that the ultimate “win” for a man when he’s emotionally backed into a corner is violence. The solution that addresses the root causes is teaching people how to think, and how to process their emotional upsets with collaborative thinking, rather than how to argue and debate to win; society is built around getting people to argue, where arguing has become our primary virtue. The truth is, when couples collaborate together more, they’ll fight less, as they’ll have the tools necessary to work through, resolve, and transcend their conflicts.

On top of the that, the issue as it’s being presented in the media is a false dilemma meant to limit the scope of debate to an either/or between men and women, which promotes karpman’s drama triangle of victim, villain, and hero. Women are the victims, men are the villains, and everyone who agrees that women are the victims and men are the villains gets to be the heroes. This is such basic psychology and reasoning that it’s almost as if the divisiveness spread by the media on this topic is intentional, is meant to perpetuate arguing as a virtue, and reinforces the cycle of violence it causes, hmmm.

As mentioned, actual causes, such as poor thinking and an inability to reasonably collaborate with others, needs to be addressed, as these are the other options being overlooked in their manufactured false dilemma.

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