A psychological archetype is a universal, inherited pattern of thought, behavior, or imagery residing in the collective unconscious, shaping human experience and psyche. Those stemming from mythological traditions, like the Great Mother or Trickster, embody recurring motifs across cultures, reflecting timeless human struggles and aspirations as seen in figures like Sophia or the Serpent.
Transactional Love is a conditional exchange where affection or care is offered with the expectation of receiving something in return, such as validation or reciprocation. It operates like a contract, driven by external motives and often tied to a sense of obligation or debt.
Non-Transactional Love is given freely without expecting repayment, rooted in genuine care and intrinsic motivation. It prioritizes authentic connection and truth, unbound by calculations or external rewards.
The word “transaction” originates from the Latin “transactio,” meaning “an agreement” or “completion,” derived from “trans-” (across) and “agere” (to act or do). It refers to an act of carrying out or settling an exchange between parties, often implying mutual action or performance.
Ancient myths weave intricate tales of female archetypes—Sophia, Lilith, Pandora, and Eve—whose actions unleash cosmic and human suffering, resonating with the psychological concept of the mother wound, often deepened by transactional love. In Gnostic cosmology, Sophia, an Aeon embodying divine wisdom, yearns to create independently, bypassing her masculine counterpart (syzygy). Her solitary act births the Demiurge, Samael, the “Blind God,” whose arrogant claim to sole divinity (“I am God”) spawns a flawed material world—a soul trap that ensnares divine sparks in cycles of ignorance and pain. Her overreach fractures the Pleroma’s divine harmony, requiring the Aeon Christos to awaken souls through gnosis. In Jewish folklore, Lilith, crafted as Adam’s equal from the same earth, refuses subservience, invoking God’s name to flee Eden. She aligns with Samael, a malevolent angelic figure, and their union produces lilim—demonic offspring that haunt humanity with disease, infertility, and spiritual affliction, embodying her rebellion against divine order.
In Greek mythology, Pandora, sculpted by Hephaestus as the first woman, is endowed with divine gifts and a fatal curiosity. Her opening of a forbidden jar releases a torrent of evils—sickness, labor, despair—shattering humanity’s idyllic existence, with only hope remaining as a bittersweet remnant. In the Jewish and Christian narrative of Adam and Eve, Eve, formed from Adam’s rib, encounters the Serpent (linked to Samael in Jewish mysticism, Satan in Christianity), whose cunning tempts her to eat the forbidden fruit. Her decision, followed by Adam’s acquiescence (and subsequent “hiding behind her skirt” when he could have taken full accountability for his misdeed), inverts the divine hierarchy from God → Male → Female to Serpent/Satan → Female → Male, triggering the Fall, mortality, and a power struggle between the sexes (Genesis 3:16). These archetypes, entwined with malevolent forces, illuminate the mother wound’s origins in transactional love and point to a non-transactional path forward.
The mother wound, a psychological scar from a disrupted mother-child bond, draws from Freud’s and Jung’s insights. Freud positioned the mother as the child’s primary emotional anchor, her nurturing or neglect shaping identity and relationships. In his Oedipus complex, unresolved maternal attachments breed guilt or fixation, while transactional love—where a mother provides material care (food, shelter) but lacks emotional depth—leaves children feeling unseen, fostering insecurity or dependency. Jung’s mother archetype, a dual force of nurturing and destruction, suggests wounds arise when this balance tips, as when a mother’s transactional approach, devoid of the divine masculine’s transcendent vision, overwhelms or abandons the child. Such a mother, fulfilling duties without the non-transactional love that flows from divine connection, mirrors the mythic feminine archetypes whose actions, though purposeful, yield chaos. Sophia’s creation, Lilith’s demons, Pandora’s evils, and Eve’s Fall reflect this maternal failure, their disruptions akin to a mother’s transactional care that meets needs but starves the soul, leaving a wound of disconnection.
Sophia’s Gnostic narrative offers a profound lens. Her autonomous creation, bypassing the divine masculine, produced Samael, whose narcissistic arrogance crafts a cosmos that enslaves souls in ignorance. This imbalance, lacking the Divine Father’s unifying principle, parallels the mother wound inflicted by a transactional mother—correct in her provisions but absent in emotional presence, creating a psychic “soul trap” of fear and inadequacy. The divine masculine, in Gnostic and Logocentric terms, represents the integrative force of divine reason, akin to the humble and empathetic non-transactional love a mother should embody. Without it, Sophia’s act spawned chaos, much like a mother’s transactional love fosters emotional voids that are difficult to fill and repair. Lilith’s alliance with Samael, spawning demons, Pandora’s unleashing of evils, and Eve’s inversion of divine order similarly reflect this pattern, their actions amplified by malevolent forces (Samael/Serpent) producing suffering akin to the relational strife of the mother wound.
The Adam and Eve story deepens this exploration. Eve’s temptation by the Serpent, followed by her leading Adam to sin, subverts the divine order, placing the Serpent in God’s stead and Eve above Adam. Genesis 3:16’s consequence of desire and dominion signals a power struggle, reflected today in the various incarnations of feminism, a relational wound mirroring the mother wound’s legacy of disconnection. The Fall’s original sin, in Christian doctrine, is a transactional debt—shame, guilt, and retribution trapping humanity in cycles of debt, much like the psychological burden of a child craving a mother’s non-transactional love but receiving only material care. This transactional dynamic, rooted in obligation, echoes the mythic soul traps, where feminine agency, entwined with malevolence, breeds chaos and alienation.
“Recall that to love is to will the good of the other as other. If there is even a modicum of self-interest on the part of the one who wills, true love disappears and becomes at least indirect egotism.” ~Bishop Robert Barron,”What Christians Believe”
Bishop Robert Barron’s definition of love—“willing the good of the other as other,” free of self-interest—aims for agape but subtly endorses a transactional mindset, framing love as a moral ledger where self-regard is a liability. This perspective fuels a false dichotomy: self-absorption (egotism) versus no-self (altruism). Disillusioned by transactional love’s fallout—relationships reduced to exchanges of duty or gain—people recoil into selfless extremes, fearing narcissism. Yet, this misdiagnoses the issue as rational self-interest rather than the transactional framework itself. Samael’s narcissism, born from Sophia’s imbalance, illustrates self-absorption’s roots in a lack of transcendent grounding, not in having a Self. Hyper-altruism, erasing personal needs, collapses under its own weight, unsustainable and disconnected from the healthy Self required for authentic love.
Transactional love, particularly from a mother, is a key driver of the mother wound. A mother who provides the “correct” transactions—food, shelter, discipline—but lacks the non-transactional vision of the divine masculine principle offers care without connection. This absence, like Sophia’s bypassing of divine reason, leaves children emotionally adrift, internalizing unworthiness or craving external validation. The mythic feminine archetypes reflect this: Sophia’s cosmos, Lilith’s demons, Pandora’s evils, and Eve’s strife are transactional disruptions, amplified by Samael or the Serpent, that trap humanity in suffering, akin to a child trapped in the psychic void of a mother’s transactional love. This wound festers, manifesting as relational dysfunction or the power struggles of Genesis 3:16, where love becomes a ledger of obligation rather than a transcendent bond.
The Catholic veneration of Mary, the Theotokos, risks perpetuating this wound by externalizing it onto an idealized maternal figure. Mary’s sinless nurturing within Catholic doctrine offers adherents the perfect mother, attracting those seeking to heal maternal disconnection through devotion. Yet, this projection, like Sophia’s overemphasis on the feminine at the expense of the masculine, avoids the inner transformative work Freud and Jung prescribe—individuating from the unhealthy arrogance inducing mother archetype to form a balanced Self through integrating a balanced, truly caring, and submissive mother archetype. By seeking solace in Mary’s intercession, devotees may sidestep the non-transactional love needed to heal the wound internally, reinforcing a transactional dynamic where healing is outsourced rather than integrated, echoing the mythic imbalances that required divine correction.
The Christian narrative of Jesus’s virgin birth (and later his crucifixion) provides that correction. Sophia’s creative action, lacking the divine masculine, spawned a flawed cosmos. Conversely, the Divine Father, through the Holy Spirit, impregnates Mary, an earthly mother containing the corrupted mother archetype, bypassing the divine feminine to infuse the divine masculine principle into Jesus, the Christos. Jesus, as the Logos, counters the plagues, soul traps, and power struggles, embodying the non-transactional love absent in transactional maternal care. His virgin birth, untainted by the material flaws caused by Sophia (as the Divine Mother) birthing creation without her masculine counterpart, reintroduces divine reason, healing the mother wound’s disconnection by modeling a love that transcends transactional love’s ledgers and tallies.
Jesus’s crucifixion is the redemptive fulcrum. The transactional debt of sin—humanity’s entrapment in guilt, reflected in Eve’s Fall, Sophia’s cosmos, Lilith’s demons, and Pandora’s evils—demands divine intervention. Jesus, as the representative of the Aeon Christos, assumes this debt, his sacrifice shattering the cycle of shame and retribution. This act is not selfless erasure but the Divine introduction of non-transactional love as a new path, preserving the Self while offering it freely, without scorekeeping. It liberates humanity from the transactional chains of sin, including the mother wound’s legacy of disconnection from a mother’s transactional care, paving the way for a love that connects without ledgers and tallies, grounded in the divine masculine principle and the Logos.
The resurrection seals this transformative vision. Jesus’s triumph over death affirms the Logos’s power to restore balance, elevating the Self into non-transactional love without succumbing to Samael’s narcissistic arrogance and self-absorption. This love embraces rational self-interest—self-care and well-being—while staying connected to oneself and others, transcending Barron’s false dichotomy of self-absorption versus selflessness (no-self). The myths’ plagues, demonic spawn, and power struggles, driven by transactional dynamics, mirror the mother wound’s pain, exacerbated by mothers whose love lacks divine depth. Jesus’s life, death, and rebirth offer a Logocentric path, where the Self is integrated into a transcendent love that heals through inner transformation, not external projection.
Freud and Jung illuminate this journey. Freud’s emphasis on the mother’s role shows how transactional love, correct but unconnected, breeds wounds of inadequacy, as provisions without presence fail the soul. Jung’s mother archetype, nurturing yet often destructive, underscores the need for individuation to heal imbalances, like those in the myths. The Catholic focus on Mary, while spiritually potent as a workaround, risks stalling this process by externalizing the wound, echoing Sophia’s feminine overreach. Healing requires a balanced Self, not necessarily with an idealized maternal figure, aligning with the non-transactional love Jesus models.
Non-transactional love, rooted in the Logos, is the third option beyond Barron’s false dichotomy. It rejects transactional ledgers and hyper-altruistic self-erasure, building a healthy Self that loves without creating debt or obligation. This love heals the mother wound by addressing the pain of transactional maternal care, integrating the divine masculine and feminine principles back together. The myths—Sophia’s cosmos, Lilith’s demons, Pandora’s evils, Eve’s Fall—tell the story of this wound, their disruptions demanding divine correction. Jesus’s virgin birth, crucifixion, and resurrection provide it, paying the transactional debt to free us to live non-transactional lives, where we stay connected as whole Selves to ourselves and each other in a redeemed and loving world.
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