Confusing cause and effect, including reversing them, will create the circular reasoning logical fallacy within the perceptions of an individual, which is a type of negative feedback loop and hamster wheel that traps the individual within its walls. It is therefore important to correct this belief on a subconscious level whenever it is found.
One of the common patterns that we’re conditioned into repeating is when we believe that we must DO valuable things in order to BE worthy, which causes us to spend our life-force energy on others in an attempt to gain their approval, or face their judgment and rejection for failing to live up to their expectations. This pattern causes us to become an asset to external parties, it is quite literally the thought pattern that objectifies us as an asset and resource that can be used as collateral by others, and ruled over by external authorities. For example, in the United States, our birth certificate is pledged as collateral for the national debt, where we are listed as an asset of the US Government, which allows them to borrow and print money; we are an asset and resource used as collateral by our governments.
We’re currently taught by society that we’re only worthy after we’re valuable, for example, we’re told that we must go to school to increase our value, so that we’re able to work and be worthy to receive a paycheck. We perceive that when we’re able to be the answer for our employer, then we’re able to receive our worth in return; but worth is actually meant to be our state of being, and value is the action that results from our BEING worthy. We’re not doing valuable things so that we can receive our worth in return as a payment, but we’re worthy and we experience value as its result. ~Nathan & Aline
We’re taught:
Cause: do valuable things → Effect: be worthy
However, in actuality:
Cause: be worthy → Effect: do valuable things
In other words:
I’m lovable and worthy (cause), therefore I experience nurturing and valuable actions as a reflection (effect) of my worth, as opposed to being in a relationship where I need to do nurturing (valuable) things for them (cause), so that I might get a scrap of love returned to me (effect)…if and only if I proved my value well enough to them. Rather than having worth, and doing valuable things from that worth, and then exchanging my value for the value from another individual, instead I feel my lack of worth and try to give them my value, in the hopes of receiving worth back from them in exchange; but they never had my worth in the first place, nor can they convert my value into worth for me, even if I somehow believe that they can — I must find my worth within me.
This particular pattern of DOING value to BE worthy is also a primary root cause of judgment, where we give away our value in the hopes of BEING worthy, thus causing us to perceive that they have power and authority over us. We make our boss, partner, parent, friend, etc., a judge and authority over us when we go to them for our worth, rather than first having our worth and then interacting with them. We are unconsciously making external parties responsible for converting our value into worth, and then hoping that they will convey it back to us. This return of worth is what is known as rewards and approval, while our failure to meet their expectations will grant us rejection and punishment. However, we will be unable to experience judgmental attitudes if we’re already worthy before we interact with them, and only exchange our value for their value.
We open ourselves up to feeling guilty and receiving judgment when we make external people responsible for our worth. We give them our value (DOING) in the hopes of BEING worthy of their approval—we’re attempting to exchange value for worth. However, if we were to first BE worthy and then exchange our value for their value, it would be impossible for us to feel guilty, or experience their judgment; both are just an effect of our own lack of self-worth. Any transaction where there is guilt, judgment, or resentment is the result of our own perception of our worth, but we act as if we’ve been wronged by the one we gave our power away to. Are they really the bad guy, or did we attempt to make them responsible for something that they are completely unable to give us? ~Nathan & Aline
The externalizing of our worth by giving away our value is the essence of agreements and compromise, where we create covenants and contracts to protect all of the parties involved. The agreement / covenant / contract contains a list of responsibilities for each party, including penalties if one of the parties defaults on their agreed upon duties. Laws, rules, regulations, and the legal system are thus another effect of reversing the causal perceptions of worth and value, and from making external parties responsible for our worth. Our current understanding and need for laws will drastically change once we’re truly capable of finding our worth from within, and acting valuable as its result and not as its cause.
Additionally, if our external judges, rulers, and authorities take advantage of our valuable gifts, and fail to convey our worth (converted from our value) back to us in a way that satisfies us, it will damage our ability to trust. As you can already see though, since this too is merely an effect of externalizing our worth in the first place, we would always be in a state of perfect trust if we were acting from our worth rather than acting to gain our worth. On the Duality to Unity Feelings Wheel, the opposite dualistic combination of feelings from “Trust” are “Confusion” and “Planned”; in other words, “Chaos” and “Order” are the dualistic result of having reversed the cause and effect of worth and value.
For more information on the Duality to Unity Feelings Wheel, click the picture above.
We’re confused and chaotic on the inside, thus we attempt to control and impose our order through rigid planning and goal setting, as an attempt to DO ourselves back into BEING in the state of trust within, but it’s just an outside-in attempt to force trust, for it will never truly satisfy or heal our internal chaos, which can only result from actually BEING worthy.
To re-pattern the belief that you must DO valuable things in order to BE worthy of love, nurturing, and the right to BE, and into the pattern that you ARE worthy (cause), and that valuable ACTIONS are the result (effect) of your worthiness — try this EFT tapping script (To learn the EFT meridian tapping points, go to the following PAGE.):
Tapping on the karate chop point with the following setup statement, x3:
“Even though I believe that I must DO valuable things in order to prove that I AM worthy, maybe just maybe I AM worthy and as a result I DO valuable things.”Tapping through the points, x3 rounds, stating this phrase once at each point:
“I believe that I must DO valuable things in order to BE worthy.”Tapping through the points, x3 rounds, stating this phrase once at each point:
“…maybe just maybe I can BE worthy and then DO valuable things as the result of my worth?”
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Tapping on the karate chop point with the following setup statement, x3:
“Even though I was taught that DOING was cause and BEING was effect, but maybe just maybe BEING is cause and DOING is effect.”Tapping through the points, x3 rounds, stating this phrase once at each point:
“I was taught that DOING was cause and BEING was effect…”Tapping through the points, x3 rounds, stating this phrase once at each point:
“…maybe just maybe BEING is cause and DOING is effect?”
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Tapping on the karate chop point with the following setup statement, x3:
Even though I was taught that DOING valuable things were the cause of BEING unique and worthy, but maybe just maybe BEING unique and worthy causes me to DO valuable things?”Tapping through the points, x3 rounds, stating this phrase once at each point:
“I was taught that DOING valuable things were the cause of BEING unique and worthy.”Tapping through the points, x3 rounds, stating this phrase once at each point:
“…but maybe just maybe BEING unique and worthy causes me to DO valuable things?”
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Tapping on the karate chop point with the following setup statement, x3:
“Even though I’ve been giving away my value to feel worthy, maybe just maybe I can just exchange my value for value instead?”Tapping through the points, x3 rounds, stating this phrase once at each point:
“I give away my value to feel worthy.”Tapping through the points, x3 rounds, stating this phrase once at each point:
“…maybe just maybe I can just trade my value for value instead?”
Try doing this once a day for a few days, and observe what you feel after each tapping session. Also try to notice how you may be interacting differently with those around you, or how they may be interacting differently with you. This may bring up other baggage or limiting patterns that you were previously unconscious of — childhood experiences that are anchoring in the old belief system. Tap on those as they arise, paying close attention to worth, value, and cause and effect.
What results, if any, did you experience? Please let us know in a comment below…
