The Art of Verbal Aikido: Protecting the Truth from Power

When is it moral to lie? We have all found ourselves in that suffocating dynamic: a question is asked, but it is not an inquiry. It is a demand for submission disguised as a question. Whether it is a family member attempting to reassert a childhood hierarchy or a bureaucratic figure seeking to “police the matrix” of social expectations and/or fiat laws, the intent is clear. They are not coming […] Read more »

Confronting and Overcoming the Victim Mindset Within and Without

Karpman’s Drama Triangle is a psychological model describing dysfunctional social interactions through three roles: the victim, who feels powerless and seeks rescue; the persecutor, who blames or oppresses; and the rescuer, who intervenes to “save” but often perpetuates the cycle. These roles create a dynamic of blame, dependency, and conflict, trapping participants in unhealthy patterns. The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) Triangle is a constructive alternative to the Drama Triangle, featuring three […] Read more »

On Stupidity, by Dietrich Bonhoeffer

One becomes stupid when they abdicate their will over to an ideology or collective; while they may retain their intellect, their will to think independently and autonomously, along with their ability to question their underlying beliefs, is forfeited. Stupidity is really just a willful preference for shallowness over depth of being and understanding. To gain depth, they’d need a lot more Hades in their lives. “This was taken from a […] Read more »