It is important to clarify what freewill is and what it isn’t, since many people think it is the freedom to act, even if another person may not appreciate being on the receiving end of such behavior. Whereas freewill is the freedom to create, ask questions, and receive anything we choose, it is not the freedom to give answers or anything else we choose to those who have not asked the question, nor have a desire to receive our gifts; and if we do give what is not asked for, it is considered a freewill violation and comes at a karmic cost to the violator. Karma is the consequence of forced giving freewill violations; it is an equalizing force that ensures that the violator eventually receives back at the same measure that they infringed upon others.
Freewill is closely connected to the emotional concept of boundaries, which define where a person begins and ends in relationship to self and others. Those who are prone to crossing the boundaries of others do not have a firm sense of Self, individuality, and the emotional wholeness that accompanies having a good understanding of personal boundaries. A freewill violation is a boundaries violation, they are one in the same thing, which is what makes the concept of agreements and consensual behavior such an important aspect of freewill and boundaries. It is okay to cross the personal boundaries of another person when they agree to it, and it is okay to give answers when it is in response to a direct or indirect question. Sexual relations when it is consensual between consenting adults is okay, but when one adult does not agree and the other still gives their gift without consent, it is considered rape, which is both a boundary and freewill violation.
Self-defense is NOT a violation of freewill, however, most people are agreeing to certain behaviors on an unconscious level and thus are still granting a certain level of consent to their external perpetrators. While they may verbally and consciously deny they give consent, they are exercising unconscious or subconscious thought patterns that allow such behavior, especially since in some way they are still acting as a perpetrator to others. If a person is still prone to violating the freewill of another, they are energetically open to having their freewill violated. This is why doing shadow work is so important, as it makes the unconscious-conscious, and allows for the removal of any unconscious agreements that may be suppressed. When a being tries to violate the freewill of an individual who has not consented on a subconscious, unconscious, or conscious level, they may experience what we call “instant karma” for their attempted infractions, or they may be unable to cross their intended victim’s boundaries at all; this is a defensive measure from the Universe that prevents the abuse of the law of freewill.
An attachment to being saved from our inability to be a powerful creator, and all of the effects that stem from that root cause, is the cause of our need to violate the freewill of others, for if we were truly responsible and capable of creating our life, we wouldn’t need to cross the boundaries of another to give them something that we think they need. An emotional attachments is all “shoulds” in life, which are how we think life “should” be because of our own woundings, traumas, and feelings of scarcity. If we were truly responsible as creators we wouldn’t impose our “shoulds” on others, since it is a violation of freewill, we would rather just create our life as we choose without giving their irresponsible behavior a second thought. If an irresponsible person chooses to learn self-responsibility, they are free to ask us questions, and we can answer them, and give them our gifts, per their request.
Again, freewill is the ability to choose how we will create our life as a sovereign being, and which beings we choose to both work with, and receive answers from; we do not have the freewill to give answers to just anybody, but only to those who ask the necessary questions and choose to receive from us. Let us reiterate, we do not have the freewill to freely violate another person’s freewill, the consequence of all such freewill violations is the accruing of karmic debt, and this debt can be accumulated from lifetime to lifetime. We feel that it is important to do shadow work, utilize the Unity Process, and use critical thinking skills to discover one’s boundaries, let go of attachments, take personal responsibility, and dissolve all subconscious, unconscious, and conscious agreements that may cause one to violate freewill and experience freewill violations.
EDIT July 20, 2015: We have since learned that having an attachment to saving a person’s own inner victim may also cause them to violate the freewill of another. If two people have conflicting inner victims, each will save their own victim, which causes them to play the role of the villain to the other; they may rationalize and moralize away their behavior as being for the good of the people, nation, planet, family, etc, but that doesn’t mean that they are indeed pure in the matter. This plays out as a savior, super hero, and messiah complex as their externalized reasoning, but it really boils down to their need to save their inner victim from perceived harm.
Additionally, many people confuse speaking their truth and bulldozing others with their truth as the same thing; they believe that it is ok to cross boundaries as long as it’s in the name of the truth. Now if there is a request or agreement to have such a relationship, and an agreement to mutually work through any feelings, patterns, and contradictions that prevent experiencing truth together, it’s not a boundary infraction, but a tool for growth. The key however is the trust and agreement to work through things together on a level playing field. Examples of such agreements are between a romantic couple, in coaching or therapy sessions, between good friends, choosing to visit a website, agreeing to watch a movie or video, and consenting through viewing a presentation; even in these however, it is beneficial to ask questions rather than using a judgmental attack on the individual or their information. Through asking enough questions, you may find that you learn more about yourself and them, and that they also benefit from the exchange, but blind truth speaking may win the war but ruin the relationship that the war was meant to protect. Crossing emotional boundaries is just as violent as crossing physical ones, even when it is done in the name of the truth.
Please, by all means, speak your truth, make it available to those who wish to listen to it, and who desire to cocreate with you; we are all meant to passionately speak, and more importantly live, our/the truth! However, if you choose to cross the boundaries of another in the name of the truth, do not be surprised if you experience resistance, pushback, or worse — live by the sword, die by the sword.