The Illusion of Control: How Zooming-Out Liberates Us

Human consciousness often clings to a zoomed-in state, fixated on personal narratives, viewpoints, and structures that provide an illusion of control. This hyper-focused perspective stems from a primal need for safety, where individuals anchor themselves to familiar stories and rigid frameworks to navigate life’s uncertainties. By staying zoomed-in, people believe they can manage their environment, relationships, and outcomes. However, this narrow focus creates a self-imposed “control Matrix”—a mental construct reinforced […] Read more »

Deconstructing the Victim Mindset: Choosing Truth Over Fear

A victim mindset is a cognitive pattern where individuals consistently perceive themselves as powerless targets of external circumstances, blaming others or events for their difficulties. This mindset resists personal responsibility and change, often clinging to a narrative of helplessness to avoid confronting uncomfortable truths. Socratic humility is the intellectual virtue of recognizing and embracing the limits of one’s knowledge, fostering openness to learning and growth. It counters arrogance by encouraging a […] Read more »

Abductive Reasoning and the Pursuit of a Moral Life

A rational process is a moral process. You may make an error at any step of it, with nothing to protect you but your own severity, or you may try to cheat, to fake the evidence and evade the effort of the quest – but if devotion to the truth is the hallmark of morality, then there is no greater, nobler, more heroic form of devotion than the act of […] Read more »

The Morality of Negotiation vs “My Way or the Highway’s” Deductive Rigidity

Deductive rigidity refers to the strict application of fixed premises to reach conclusions, often stifling inquiry by treating those premises as unchallengeable, leading to inflexible and potentially flawed outcomes. In contrast, abductive reasoning offers flexibility by inferring the best explanation from observed facts, adapting to new evidence and context to align further with truth. Transactional Love is a conditional exchange where affection or care is offered with the expectation of receiving something in return, […] Read more »

Missing the Mark: The Vibratory Disconnect in Logocentric Speech

Cymatics is the study of how sound vibrations create visible geometric patterns in physical mediums like sand, water, or powder, revealing the impact of specific frequencies. These patterns demonstrate the organizing power of vibrational energy, showing how vibration can shape matter into intricate, orderly forms. Spontaneous order refers to the natural emergence of organized patterns, structures, or behaviors in complex systems without centralized planning or control, driven by the interactions […] Read more »

Creativity vs. Productivity: The Role of Reasoning in Creating and Producing Value

*Note: the examples in this article aren’t necessarily based in our experience with CPS and ex-partner, but they’re there to help understand and clarify the problems and patterns that I am exploring here. Ideation is the process of generating, developing, and refining new ideas or creative solutions to address needs or problems, often relying on imaginative thinking to envision possibilities. In personal relationships and family law, the interplay between creativity […] Read more »