...where the Two become the One
I recently witnessed an interpersonal relationship dynamic that can be found underlying many destructive worldviews, and it was quite fascinating and disturbing all at the same time. In this relationship pattern, people do “good deeds” with the expectation of getting very specific needs met in return, which means they were attempting to secure love in the same way a person might secure sex from a prostitute, without the person they […] Read more »
Self-abandonment is when we abandon our own self-interests for another person, either for their validation and approval, or to avoid experiencing guilt, shame, and physical punishments for putting our needs first. Another word for self-abandonment is sacrifice, as we often sacrifice our self-interests for the interests of others to receive approval, and to avoid receiving punishments. ISN’T PROTECTING OUR SELF INTERESTS SELFISH? According to Ayn Rand, and I hold to […] Read more »
I’m not a fan of the dichotomy of Service to Self (STS) vs Service to Others (STO) found in the Law of One material by the so-called soul group “Ra”. It states that serving ones own self-interests is evil and that serving others is good, however, I would say that at the very least, it’s a false dichotomy fallacy and egocentric oversimplification of our options for aligning our soul, and […] Read more »
This is a blog post that I wrote back in the summer of 2012 on a now defunct website, but I wanted to post it here due to it’s timeless relevance to our healing journeys, personal growth, and overall self-mastery. Enjoy! Boundaries are an important part of all relationships, defining where we begin and end, and where our friends and loved ones begin and end. Almost all relationship problems are […] Read more »
Some thoughts on sympathy, and how it can be manipulated with guilt, called “guilt manipulation”, to herd people towards desired outcomes. “Socialism itself can hope to exist only for brief periods here and there, and then only through the exercise of the extremest terrorism. For this reason it is secretly preparing itself for rule through fear and is driving the word “justice” into the heads of the half-educated masses like […] Read more »
The secret to navigating life in a manner that is free from drastic life changes, a series of unfortunate events, and sudden accidents that catch us off guard and/or traumatize us, is to do so intentionally by working life in a step by step process, and with specific boundaries in place that enables us to do so. Life changes and accidents are only possible when we need flashing neon signs […] Read more »
I am often asked, especially more recently with the world caught up in such a gigantic lie, why it is so difficult to wake people up to the truth. This is a really great question, but it’s a difficult one to digest because it takes some humility and courage on the part of the one receiving my answer. If you’re not interested in eating a full serving of humble pie, […] Read more »
The brothers, Cain and Abel, as represented by Saturn and Jupiter, are currently in conjunction in Capricorn, and are here to retell the story of value, envy, and murder. Both brothers gave an offering to God, but only Abel’s offering was considered valuable enough, while Cain’s offering was rejected—as a result of his rejection, and his feelings of shame, Cain murdered his brother Abel, because Abel’s offering had more value […] Read more »
Most people hold a different definition of empathy than I do. Their version of empathy is how I define sympathy, and sympathy definitely needs to be held in check, because it’s typically psychologically enmeshed “together with the feeling”, which is the etymological breakdown of sympathy. Empathy: -en (in) + pathos (feeling) Sympathy: syn- (together) + pathos (feeling) Whereas sympathy is enmeshed together with others in a feeling, and only understands […] Read more »
Equality between people is a myth; those who want to feel equal actually want to feel special, to feel that their uniqueness can contribute and add value in some way. Those who don’t feel special feel inferior, and they try to find ways to compensate for their feelings of inferiority by trying to feel equal, but one cannot reach equality from inferiority, one can only flip into its dualistic counterpart […] Read more »
The mystical path of the divine marriage, also called the divine union and the alchemical marriage, broken down in psychological concepts by Carl Jung. After all, Carl Jung was a student of ancient mysticism, and came to many of his understandings through his own mystical and personal experiences. I highly recommend listening to this video, and maybe even reviewing it more than once, as it is dense with quality insights […] Read more »
National borders correspond to healthy psychological boundaries, but instead of them being the psychological boundaries of an individual person, they are the psychological boundaries of a collective nation. Healthy boundaries are not a barrier blocking everyone out, nor are they an open sponge allowing everyone in, but they’re more like a filter that filters out unwanted behaviors and allows in wanted behaviors. Another way of seeing a boundary is as […] Read more »
Do “the needs of the many,” really outweigh “the needs of the few?” We have concluded that the development of our individuality should be at the forefront of everything we engage in, and not the development of the group, or the structures erected to protect and perpetuate the group. This may seem selfish at first, but there is an important nuance that most people miss when making this judgment. For […] Read more »
When we turn an expectation into a boundary, we become a judge rather than a creator. Boundaries are not meant to bring us freedom, but safety; expectations are what bring us freedom. Boundaries are what we choose not to create with our energy, while expectations are what we do choose to create with our energy. The dominance and submission game (master/slave consciousness) are the result of conflating boundaries and expectations […] Read more »
When I receive critical (and often judgmental) feedback on the materials I share, rather than getting defensive and engaging in a heated, energy draining debate, I’ll systematically ask them questions about their viewpoint. I do this to better understand where they are coming from, to dissect their viewpoint and uncover their underlying assumptions and motivations, to probe their critical thinking skills and intellectual character traits, and to determine if they […] Read more »