...where the Two become the One
When is it moral to lie? We have all found ourselves in that suffocating dynamic: a question is asked, but it is not an inquiry. It is a demand for submission disguised as a question. Whether it is a family member attempting to reassert a childhood hierarchy or a bureaucratic figure seeking to “police the matrix” of social expectations and/or fiat laws, the intent is clear. They are not coming […] Read more »
Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster Cline and Jim Fay advocates for raising responsible, self-confident children through empathetic discipline and natural consequences. The book emphasizes allowing children to make choices within clear boundaries, fostering accountability by letting them experience the logical outcomes of their decisions. It promotes a parenting style that balances love with firm guidance, avoiding punitive measures to encourage critical thinking and independence. Rebellion is a counterfeit […] Read more »
Self-abandonment is when we abandon our own self-interests for another person, either for their validation and approval, or to avoid experiencing guilt, shame, and physical punishments for putting our needs first. Another word for self-abandonment is sacrifice, as we often sacrifice our self-interests for the interests of others to receive approval, and to avoid receiving punishments. ISN’T PROTECTING OUR SELF INTERESTS SELFISH? According to Ayn Rand, and I hold to […] Read more »
Honesty is merely the first step of truth, it is admitting that there is a problem that must be examined in the first place. If a person is dishonest about past behavior, then they are incapable of moving forward from this first phase, and remain firmly embedded in the lie of it. When honesty is not exercised, intuition is needed to determine if a lie is present, so that we […] Read more »